Some time ago, an elderly gentleman approached me after I had finished speaking in church. Holding back his noticeable tears he simply said, “… thank you for saying its OK to have doubts”. More recently another, younger Christian, told me he has lost his faith completely — the Christian faith just holds too many doubts for him.  And, most likely, this Summer, you will have read about high profile Christians Joshua Harris and Marty Sampson announcing on social media that they no longer believe.

Is it OK for Christians to have doubts? What kinds of doubts? When does doubting result in a crippling loss of faith? Are there people who have pretty much lost their faith but still come to church, hiding their non-belief, either to maintain an image, or for the social circles that church provides? It seems even some ministers cling on in this way.

Losing faith - finding faith

Why do Christians lose their faith?

I believe there are two main reasons.

Firstly, we get overwhelmed by troubling questions
Some Christians can end up feeling there is “an unnerving intellectual incoherence to the Christian faith”, according to Scott McKnight in his book Finding Faith Losing Faith. They end up feeling that Christianity is full of holes. These troubling questions usually include:

  • Why are science and faith at war with one another?
  • Is hell really eternal conscious torment for millions of people?
  • Why is the God of the Old Testament so violent?
  • Why does scripture contradict itself?
  • Why does God allow so much suffering?
  • And what do we do with other religions?

Of course, these are difficult questions, period. We shouldn’t minimise them but nor can we examine them in a few paragraphs such as this. The links below this article actually relate to short blogs where these questions are discussed in depth. If these questions bother you, do take the time to look.

As well as that let’s not forget that there is huge intellectual incoherence to atheism. Hard atheists have a belief system as well, and it has many holes. Eg, they believe the universe exists by complete chance, they believe nothing exists beyond this life, and that ultimately science alone will explain everything. None of these can be proven. In fact, the universe, they say, is just a gigantic car crash, an unplanned, un-initiated big-bang that somehow resulted in a stunningly beautiful world. This is so incoherent that some Christians who have had a crisis of faith end up having a crisis of doubt and returning to faith.

Some Christians who have had a crisis of faith end up having a crisis of doubt

Secondly, Christians lose faith because we are disappointed with God

My neighbour told me recently that he lost his faith when a good friend of his died, young and suddenly. He was a lovely kind man, the sort that would do anything for anyone. His death was tragic.

This kind of thing shakes us – it’s hard. We feel God has let us down badly, so badly that maybe he’s not real. But the problem here is that as Christians we easily fall into the false idea that God owes us something. We get the idea that we have a special deal with God, and this deal means that God will not allow anything really awful happen to us. It is tempting to think that if we pray, pursue good works, give away our money etc then we won’t face the big disasters in life … terminal illness, loss of a child, serious accident. …. But there is no ticket to a life free from calamity. There is no deal like that. Instead, “the deal” is about God walking with us , wherever we go, even taking on our suffering himself, and with the promise of a deeper, eternal relationship to come..  But for now, we all share in the broken nature of this world, and that impacts our lives at many levels.

Why did God let that happen? Why did God not heal? … are fair questions to ask of God. In fact, asking them is an important part of learning to integrate faith and life, because we start to see that God is very much present in these events, just not in the ways we thought he might be. This leads to a relationship, a trust in God so that, although we might not know the answers, we become content to sit with the questions.

atheism is a belief system

And along with these questions we need a healthy view of doubt.

Licenced to Doubt

Of all the incidents of people doubting God in the Bible (and there are many) perhaps the one that amazes me the most is the disciples right at the end of Matthew’s gospel:

Matthew 28.16: Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go. When they saw him, they worshipped him; but some doubted.

These guys have lived with Jesus, they have soaked in his teaching, witnessed his miracles and have even seen him resurrected. They have talked, walked  and eaten with a Jesus who yesterday was dead and today is alive. And some of them still doubt? Wow!

If it’s OK for them to be sceptical – and Matthew records it – it’s OK for you and me to have the odd niggling doubt.  It’s not a sin to have doubts, it’s just human. As someone once said: “Courage is not the complete absence of fear.  Courage is doing the right thing even in the face of fear”. Faith is not the complete absence of doubts. Faith is trusting even in the presence of doubt – even when I don’t understand.

Faith is not the complete absence of doubts. Faith is trusting even in the presence of doubt

Winning through genuine doubts to a place of greater confidence

Christian tradition speaks of “the dark night of the soul” – a kind of spiritual crisis, which can include a crisis of doubt. And recently a lot has been written on “faith deconstruction”. Whether or not you feel these phrases apply to you, genuine and overpowering doubts in life can hit any of us, and when they do, it feels alarming, like the rug is being pulled from underneath us.

But, in fact, most of us need to experience some kind of crisis of faith, some dark night of the soul, for our faith to be hardened, to be made real. Janet Williams in Seeking the God Beyond explains that God can use such times to call us to a new and deeper relationship. She compares this experience to a child learning to ride a bike with stabilisers (the tiny, extra wheels at the back that stop it toppling over). Although the stabilisers provide comfort and losing them might seem terrifying, in the end they hold us back from a much richer experience.

Facing up to the hard questions, working through our doubts is key to a lifelong relationship with God that is constantly maturing. These occasions are an invitation to grow in faith. Apparently in Luxembourg each year there is a hopping race where you must repeatedly hop 2 steps forward and one step back. That’s a good picture of how faith matures. I believe it’s in the hopping back, it’s in the questions of life, that we are forced let go of our false idols, our comfort blankets, and discover something new about the mysterious, compassionate God we serve.

Grow in faith

7 blogs for 7 big questions:

Why does God allow bad things to happen?

Why don’t miracles happen today?

Do Christians Muslims and Jews Worship the Same God?

Why are there Weird Stories in the Bible?

5 things I Wish I’d Known When I Became A Christian

Questions We’re Afraid to Ask About the Bible

Do You Have Enough Faith to Be An Atheist?

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Neil Greig
Neil Greig
1 year ago

You have created a strawman of the atheist. It is not a belief system, it is the lack of belief in gods. Other than that atheists believe lots of different things. You, the theists believe that the universe came from nothing, conjured up by a magical being. It’s no wonder you have doubts!

Anonymous
Anonymous
14 days ago

Someone please pray for me. I don’t want to stop trusting in God but it’s getting hard
I lost my grandma, didn’t get the results I studied and prayed so long for to gain admission to study but I am still clinging on to the hope that there is a miracle coming. Someone please pray for me

dave
dave
3 months ago

I think because Christianity is like being on a major league baseball team. If you can’t hit or play you get cut.

I do think though a person can admit to their sins and still follow.

dave
dave
3 months ago

I was born roman and Italian. Usually Christians are from the west coast.

People from New Jersey usually are not Christian unless they become born again.

Christians do not like me usually because I am roman and not mormon.

stew
stew
3 months ago
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Walt
Walt
4 months ago

The more completely one treats the Lord as Lord of their life, the stronger faith becomes, because God works with that believer to build up their faith, both by the Spirit and by interacting with them in life’s events, many often spectacular.

But the less obedient believers tend to have more doubts, since their walk with the Lord is more shallow and so not much interaction with God occurs.

Of course if one is not truly born of God, then any amount of faith is superficial and can easily be lost.

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al
al
4 months ago

I am religious but I am not Christian because I know that most Christians would find me incompetent and not worthy of Christ.

I mean even rulers and presidents are Christian. Hitler followed Christ, George Bush.

I can still believe in religious things and not be accepted by Christians.

Walt
Walt
4 months ago
Reply to  al

Al, no one is worthy of Christ. Jesus died for all our sins, including the sin of unworthiness. But you can have a one-to-one personal relationship with God. For how, see http://www.millpark.org/bible/doctrine-critical/the_plan.html

M. Castro
M. Castro
4 months ago

Here’s my testimony. My name is Matthew. This is why I believe in Jesus Christ, The Alpha and the Omega  Conscious Created Creation 1. I am consciously aware. 2. I am a sentient human being. 3. I have my own spirit. 4. The Bible is too spiritually advanced for its day, not to have been made by an even more intelligent designer. 5. Why do I keep finding solutions today, in a book that was written a long time ago? 6. The Bible is too technologically advanced, for its day, not to have been made by an even more technologically advanced creator. 7.… Read more »

Chris Walker
Chris Walker
3 months ago
Reply to  M. Castro

Matthew, I only skimmed that, but nearly all of those arguments can be used badly and incorrectly to support any other religion. You should pare down your list to arguments to only ones that prove what is written in the NT is true about the ressurection. For example, just stating you are conscious, or not evolved, does not mean the N.T. is true. Your assertion that the Bible is too advanced for its day, is (a) wrong, and (b) circular, since the Bible is something advanced for its day, which may not have been written by God, proving it wasn’t… Read more »

megan
megan
2 months ago
Reply to  Chris Walker

Rough response. I quite liked his arguments. I think maybe you are being too critical. Seems like the words he wrote came from someone with faith and there is some truth to it. I understood what he was saying quite well. Maybe reconsider your response?

HopsNBarley
HopsNBarley
1 year ago

Just read your excellent article on doubt in Christianity. I am sure that a lot of people will benefit from the article. You have s wonderful internet ministry. I hope you are able y key up the good work for many years.
In some church situations, like some house groups, where to raise the issue of a biblical paradox, let alone a personal doubt, is tantamount outright heresy.
Thank you

Christina Barton
1 year ago

Atheism is very definitely a belief system. You need to catch up a bit Neil before making such a comment — maybe view some discussions between Theists and non Theists like John Lennox and Richard Dawkins or Alistair McGrath and Dawkins or some of the New Atheists so called . It takes a lot of faith to be an Atheist — the odds are stacked against such a system from the point of view of Philosophy, Religion and Science. Justin Brierly hosts some great debates on ‘Unbelievable’ — check it out — 

Best Wishes Tina

Neil Greig
Neil Greig
1 year ago

How can atheism be a belief system? Is not collecting stamps a hobby? I don’t believe in unicorns, pixies, Santa or leprechauns either are those belief systems?
Also it takes no faith at all to be an atheist. I consider faith to be useless and have no time for it!

Neil
Neil
1 year ago
Reply to  Chris Goswami

I am as much of an atheist that you can be, so if that makes me a hard atheist then so be it. But it is not a belief system.
Atheists believe lots of different things. Your example “nothing exists beyond this life” is a silly statement! As I said atheism is not a belief system so I cannot answer for atheists, but for myself lots of things exist beyond this life, Planets, galaxies, nebulae. etc.
I have no faith!!

M. Castro
M. Castro
4 months ago
Reply to  Neil

Why do you say you have no faith?
Do you want to go to hell? Do you have a death wish?

I can attest that there are better things than that.

I have hope. I have seen spiritual things that I cannot explain in words that can be from no other than God himself. This is not hallucinations these aren’t imaginations this is not false belief and false hope.

Would you like to know about Jesus Christ or would you like me to leave you alone?

Chris Walker
Chris Walker
3 months ago
Reply to  M. Castro

You said “hard atheists” and you get a small clap for that, but it doesn’t deal with the implied soft atheism, where we simply don’t know. It’s a bit boring coming up with concise labels for each type of agnostic, that no normal person would understand. I believe “hard atheists” are really just bluffing, annoyed, and fed up with the threats of Christianity, and haven’t looked at much else, because all religions seem similar. There are some atheists who have tried some of the other religions, but really: “fool me once, shame on you”. In my view, it’s a strategic… Read more »

Mike Holt
Mike Holt
1 year ago

Thanks Chris . We all go through difficult times , doubts , trials . These are normal for a Christian . We don’t like them , but they should and do make us stronger . I question the commitment in the first place , if people lose their faith . I don’t think people really do . Once a believer always a believer . Trials and suffering make us more Christ like and make us come forth as gold for Christ’s glory . It’s ok to doubt and have questions but the first place to go to is into God’s… Read more »

Tess Kaufman
Tess Kaufman
6 months ago
Reply to  Mike Holt

I have been a life long Christian. Done it all ‑teaching, ministering, prayer warrior parent, mentor. I have not had an easy life since childhood so I’m not saying all the roles were easy for me. That being said, my most recent crisis has been ongoing and increasing despite prayer, reading bible, small group support, reaching out to other believers. I say I’m done. It’s too painful to keep appealing to God only to be told no, wait, something better is around the corner for this horrible chronic condition, unemployment etc. I’m not sure there is a god. If I… Read more »

Joy
Joy
4 months ago
Reply to  Tess Kaufman

Please hold on. I get super depressed as well when I doubt and feel like God is ignoring me. Then afterwards i feel terrible guilt. 

But I know he sees you. He is Sovereign, try looking for every good thing in your life today amd see how he is giving that to you. The terrible things are to make you stronger. Hold on. Take comfort that HE holds on to us. Breathing is an act of God’s mercy. Just breath and know he is at work. 

I’m sorry my advice is not better. But I will pray for you.

Megan
Megan
2 months ago
Reply to  Tess Kaufman

It is hard to keep the faith sometimes. Sometimes I feel like God is so hard on me and expects me to go through life hurting so he can teach me things. Sometimes I have yelled at God before, but I know I am not right for doing so. Also when I had schizophrenia I thought God was evil. I hope you find your faith again! Sometimes I see everyone else thriving and I think why would God abandon me like this? Why does he make it so difficult to be happy and understand him? Does God really even love… Read more »

Mart
Mart
1 year ago

Brilliant- thx matr

Christina Barton (tina)
Christina Barton (tina)
1 year ago

Hi Chris

Good to meet you albeit very briefly at Creamfields. I am the older lady you spoke to in the Red Area as you came to do your shift on Saturday; thanks for this new subject. Co-incidentally I have just finished watching an interview Justin Brierly had with an American Pastor who lost his faith and ‘came back’ years later. He explains the reasons for his return to faith on the website thefaithpuzzle.org ‑thought you might like to check it out!